Richness of Thoughts, But What If it is restrained by your Ability of Creation!

Sometimes he sounds more intelligent than how much he actually is! 
Sometimes he sounds more stupid than how much he really is!

He instantly felt today he needs to talk about few things; when he needs not sound intelligent; when he needs not explain what he wants to say! Few beautiful thoughts find home in his heart, and desire to practice and inspiration to manifest them into reality gives enough confidence to go ahead and follow his heart!

But suddenly a mercurial thought in mind; is he really able to do this! Is he expecting himself to do something beyond his abilities, beyond his reach! Is he really capable enough! Engulfed in number of dubieties associated with human life, he bemoans the need of money to realize a dream, which requires the sheer magnanimousness of nature! What ignites this quest of finding answers! Where are these answers!

Few lovely people who already know him would think he is under-estimating himself, he is not believing his abilities and perhaps it’s lack of confidence in this very moment. That’s it! But seriously, he knows it’s not about the confidence. He is posing some real questions and he really wants to confront them and bring out the answers.

He has been the one who always believes in putting in one’s best, but the outcomes of this approach are restrained by his abilities too! Isn’t it?

Though he feels inspired enough to try and work hard for the objectives he is thinking of, but it doesn’t mean he can do everything he wants!

He is not the one who has been topping the charts, but at the same time, he always found a way to follow, to lead a life with self respect and dignity. Just with the positive perspective in mind that whatever he would achieve, it would be his own and then he’ll see what is possible with that, he always keeps going! But surely this optimism doesn’t entail that he would be able to achieve whatever he can think of, even if it’s really constructive and for a good cause.

Definitely, this is neither the fear of failure nor the strict trepidation about future! He just wishes to know where he is headed- not to ruin the surprise hidden in future, but perhaps to ensure that things won’t shallow in the end!

The Eve of Marriage!

A day of celebration

The moments of ecstasy

You consent a relationship

Full of love and immense purity

Getting ready for the journey

Of felicity and pleasure

To experience the sense of togetherness

And witness this beautiful treasure

Life waits for you,

Spreading both its hands

Ready to lavish blessings

So you nurture eternal bonds

Qualities all you have

To make her life beautiful

With colors of love and respect

And turn everything cheerful

She comes into your life

In your beautiful heart she would remain

The bond of friendship and love

I wish she would always sustain

This relation, gentle and pure

I know, you would nourish

HE guides you through life,

And let your love flourish

Heartiest wishes for you, Pal

HE remains with you all the way

To help you make marriage vows

Mean what they really say

PS: Specially written for my Dear friend, Yogesh who is going to tie the knot of sanctity Tomorrow. Many Congratulations for the wedding Couple! Have a glittering day and a wonderful life ahead!

First Korean Wedding I attended!

One of my Korean colleagues got married last week and it was really very exciting for me to attend a Korean Wedding ceremony very first time.

First interesting thing, her Korean name is Hye-Seon and her fiancé’s name is Hyun-Seok, the names rhyme and almost same in terms of number and even type of characters used in their names! :)

So, we were supposed to reach there before the ceremony gets started so that we can take snaps and meet the wedding couple.

And we knew that it won’t be very long ceremony like we Indians have! So I thought it’s better to be before in time lest by the time we shall reach, half of the ceremony should already be over! :) So we decided to start 2.5 hours early, for 45 minutes distance!

We reached, well before it got started. We had lunch and were eagerly waiting for the ceremony to commence.

All the relatives were dressed properly and were waiting for the beautiful couple to enter into the wedding hall. And yes, there was a dress-code as well for both families- girl’s family in Pink and boy’s in violet! Cool! :)

A wedding ceremony, in any religion is a pure act of worship before God, reflecting joy, celebration, respect, dignity and love with an impression that they, as couple, have made a solemn, eternal covenant before HIM. And it was no different- a beautiful ambience when they get ready to sing the paeans of adoration. As in Christianity, they believe that God created marriage. In Genesis, it says, “it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”.

The Minister started the opening remarks with The Call to Worship and few instructions as they prepared to take those marriage vows. “You are making an exclusive commitment to each other that you would remain united as long as you shall live. Your love would never be diminished by adverse and difficult circumstances, and it is to endure until Death parts you”. Though It was completely in Korean language, but surely something like this only ;-).

Then they walked the white carpet! ;-)

Everyone is taking pictures including me and then it was a formal wedding picture ceremony with whole family, relatives and friends. And yes, formally, it was over!

Being native of a country where a marriage may take number of hours or even days, it was really intriguing to witness a marriage getting over within an hour! :)

And just see their faces: radiating with glow by the beautiful ambience and overwhelmed in emotions to embark a journey of felicity and pleasure! It’s lovely. And seeing them so much engrossed in happiness, I really thought its mere disarray in those impudent minds who we often find uttering, “Why should I get married! It would take away my freedom and all that!”

So what do you think!

Time for some philosophy now! :)

I think in simple words, it’s a form of “divine facility” given to human kind, having someone to accompany you in this journey of life!

When we take birth, our parents bring us up in the best possible way. They try to make their children inculcate all those values, culture and ethics human life is defined with. But in this process, they really forget what they want for themselves. Their children become their life in all aspects. So certainly one point comes in our life when we are grown up enough, able to lend a supportive hand to them and should try to switch roles and they need to be treated like children and taken care of, in that way.

And you really need a companion to do that. Obviously either mother or father is not the ideal choice for any child! So get married and try to be the “parents” of your “children”! :)

As I go through Facebook wall, or Orkut page, or GTalk status messages, a commonality I can figure out is that the desire of getting into the relationship has started tickling in almost everyone’s mind and heart. Some of them sound fictional, some of them real, but that’s for sure that they all are ready. :) It’s just that they are restrained by uncertainty of future and probably not sure about how it would transpire! [mast hai…jaldi hi nipat lenge sab :P]

By the way, I think nowadays as the definition of life is rapidly changing and the necessity of so called development is getting enforced, one tends to live life away from family, spend more time among the friends in college, colleagues in office etc. but the fact is that the way people are socialized, if not you, your friends would get married and soon they get a little busy in their own lives and suddenly this harsh realization crops up that probably you are getting left alone! And being alone even in the form of aloneness is not possible all the time, is not as easy as it sounds and a point comes when you probably want to give up. It’s not even necessarily about loneliness, but the actualization whether you are still emotionally healthy or not.

So the point is: get married to have a friend who would be there for you for lifetime. :)

I think these are good enough reasons to start thinking about getting ready to tie the knot of sanctity. So the verdict (;-)) is:

Somewhere, someone is surely there for you! Keep your eyes and heart open and let someone sneak into it! ;-)

The Special One!

A lot to ponder over

Much more to think about

Contrivance for this apprehension

Doesn’t seem to come and tout

Fathom your soul

With love and care

Someone special

Gently profound, that is rare

Heart seems to gaze around

In search of such destination

Few things are not in control

They crop up in such anticipation

What would be HIS choice!

What extent you would be part of

It comes and goes as a thought

Until it gets manifested in a heart of!

Why this temperament???

Throughout this life journey, we meet numerous people. Some strange, some affectionate; some encouraging, some demoralizing; some accompanying, some disturbing!
Or sometimes we meet the same person quite frequently like in workplace under different situations, different circumstances, which unfold different traits of his/her character and that’s how we learn that person.
Every human on this planet lives in the quest of attaining happiness, and surprisingly true but the definition or even the ways to achieve it differ person to person. And even so different that their ways could be conflicting.

One’s happiness is coming at the cost of other’s ! what forces this delusion in those minds!

Instead of improving oneself, one tries to disprove other! What’s this approach to live!

One little thing forces an aberration in one’s behavior and response,… out of insecurity or because of intention to prove superiority!

One’s incessant effort to fight with others, instead of being introspective and having conversation with oneself! What’s this reluctance!

What’s the pleasure in being aggressively cynical, to think what you do is right and what others do is simply wrong and absurd!

Such thoughts prompt in mind, with vulnerability to see it around in some or the other form!

Optimism, Hope, Helplessness and A Request!

Life is not a matter of,
Milestones as we think
It’s about the journey rather
To enjoy and euphorically sing

HE tests us at times,
Through intricacies of life
But gives power to fight
Against every bitter strife

You never get tired
Let your perseverance prevail
I know it so well
Territory of hopes you hail

Don’t know, What decided for you,
By the Master of destiny
I wish I could lead you to
Happiness, away from agony

But you never get worried
If you have no one to talk to
You know I’m there
You ever wish, or you have to

This day and coming morrows
HE has to take away your sorrows
Bless pleasures of your share
To HIM, that’s the only prayer

Me and My Loneliness

Not something which I crave for,
But embraces me with keenness

Engulfed in thoughts,
None but only with its presence
Sometimes nostalgic, but
Helps to feel their essence

Leaves me in despair
Sometimes in smile for a reason
Craft feelings to re-appear
Create room to analyze with precision

When no one is around,
Still it remains with grittiness
Me and my loneliness
Space for solitude, but sometimes for bitterness

A thought: Need for synchrony between Heart and Mind

Heart always tends to be swifter than our mind, particularly in emotional appearances. Perfect synchronization between these would always lead to eternal happiness, but human dispositions, as everything else in this world, are not ideal. There is always a “skew”.
We portray a picture of a very special one in life based on our experiences, likes and dislikes and the pleasures we are willing to acknowledge from life, but we never know where our destiny takes us. So it's better to be watchful and don’t let our heart go well beyond our reach because if it cannot lead to a state where everything what we want to be is fine, everyone whom we want to be, is happy, then it would only leave us in asperity. Then the greater efforts need to be done to overcome this unpleasant state and make our life move ahead for its objectives. So try to keep your heart and mind in synchrony and let God help you to decide and believe who is the special one with whom you would be sharing all the experiences in life it comes with.
It’s difficult, but we can always learn to keep this "skew" between heart and mind as less as possible else it is going to give us pains and sufferings, nothing else. Perhaps it’s all about training ourselves to make our heart and mind move in unison and gradually, it becomes part of our character and spontaneity!

One year, in Korea

Its one year over in Korea now. I had come here in October, 2008.

Time keeps showing us different aspects of life and it tests us against its own test cases. Being around people who don’t speak your language is not as easy as it sounds. It took me some good time to start understanding their expressions that you usually see on face and in dwindling voice. But sometimes I feel I did some mistake of coming out my own country, own land! Not because these circumstances pose some intrigued challenges, but because I want people not to misunderstand me. I always wish not to be misunderstood instead of hoping that they understand me right and well. That’s one apprehension I live with! Though I used to expect the same in India also, but perhaps it is more prominent here because I tend to think that if they comprehend something different from what it actually is, it might be changing the image of “Indianness” they have in their mind.

So why did I opt to come here!!! With certain expectations to be fulfilled, with certain tasks to be accomplished? Not strictly. I just had come here with a very fresh state of mind, with really no expectations whatsoever. I just wanted to give myself one experience that is different from all the previous ones for the very obvious reason that I was coming out of my country very first time! It has been a splendid experience in terms of both as a professional and a person. I was very intrigued by these people, because of the life style they have. It actually developed a quest in my mind to learn what and how it is. It really helped me to diversify my view to understand different traits of a person.

To manage everything on my own, starting from streamlining my thought process in this different environment to buying vegetables for cooking food, has been a great experience. I feel good doing it and it certainly gives a lot of confidence.

Above all, it feels good to see such reverberations going on in mind. And certainly time would surely come when I want to go back to my own land and do something for the people I really belong to! Since we all know this nice line from the movie Swades, which comes to everyone who is living out of India- Apne hi paani mein pighal jaana baraf ka muqaddar hota hai(To melt down into its own water is the fate of ice)!!!, I am destined to go back sooner or later!