One of my Korean colleagues got married last week and it was really very exciting for me to attend a Korean Wedding ceremony very first time.
First interesting thing, her Korean name is Hye-Seon and her fiancé’s name is Hyun-Seok, the names rhyme and almost same in terms of number and even type of characters used in their names! :)
So, we were supposed to reach there before the ceremony gets started so that we can take snaps and meet the wedding couple.
And we knew that it won’t be very long ceremony like we Indians have! So I thought it’s better to be before in time lest by the time we shall reach, half of the ceremony should already be over! :) So we decided to start 2.5 hours early, for 45 minutes distance!
We reached, well before it got started. We had lunch and were eagerly waiting for the ceremony to commence.
All the relatives were dressed properly and were waiting for the beautiful couple to enter into the wedding hall. And yes, there was a dress-code as well for both families- girl’s family in Pink and boy’s in violet! Cool! :)
A wedding ceremony, in any religion is a pure act of worship before God, reflecting joy, celebration, respect, dignity and love with an impression that they, as couple, have made a solemn, eternal covenant before HIM. And it was no different- a beautiful ambience when they get ready to sing the paeans of adoration. As in Christianity, they believe that God created marriage. In Genesis, it says, “it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”.
The Minister started the opening remarks with The Call to Worship and few instructions as they prepared to take those marriage vows. “You are making an exclusive commitment to each other that you would remain united as long as you shall live. Your love would never be diminished by adverse and difficult circumstances, and it is to endure until Death parts you”. Though It was completely in Korean language, but surely something like this only ;-).
Then they walked the white carpet! ;-)
Everyone is taking pictures including me and then it was a formal wedding picture ceremony with whole family, relatives and friends. And yes, formally, it was over!
Being native of a country where a marriage may take number of hours or even days, it was really intriguing to witness a marriage getting over within an hour! :)
And just see their faces: radiating with glow by the beautiful ambience and overwhelmed in emotions to embark a journey of felicity and pleasure! It’s lovely. And seeing them so much engrossed in happiness, I really thought its mere disarray in those impudent minds who we often find uttering, “Why should I get married! It would take away my freedom and all that!”
So what do you think!
Time for some philosophy now! :)
I think in simple words, it’s a form of “divine facility” given to human kind, having someone to accompany you in this journey of life!
When we take birth, our parents bring us up in the best possible way. They try to make their children inculcate all those values, culture and ethics human life is defined with. But in this process, they really forget what they want for themselves. Their children become their life in all aspects. So certainly one point comes in our life when we are grown up enough, able to lend a supportive hand to them and should try to switch roles and they need to be treated like children and taken care of, in that way.
And you really need a companion to do that. Obviously either mother or father is not the ideal choice for any child! So get married and try to be the “parents” of your “children”! :)
As I go through Facebook wall, or Orkut page, or GTalk status messages, a commonality I can figure out is that the desire of getting into the relationship has started tickling in almost everyone’s mind and heart. Some of them sound fictional, some of them real, but that’s for sure that they all are ready. :) It’s just that they are restrained by uncertainty of future and probably not sure about how it would transpire! [mast hai…jaldi hi nipat lenge sab :P]
By the way, I think nowadays as the definition of life is rapidly changing and the necessity of so called development is getting enforced, one tends to live life away from family, spend more time among the friends in college, colleagues in office etc. but the fact is that the way people are socialized, if not you, your friends would get married and soon they get a little busy in their own lives and suddenly this harsh realization crops up that probably you are getting left alone! And being alone even in the form of aloneness is not possible all the time, is not as easy as it sounds and a point comes when you probably want to give up. It’s not even necessarily about loneliness, but the actualization whether you are still emotionally healthy or not.
So the point is: get married to have a friend who would be there for you for lifetime. :)
I think these are good enough reasons to start thinking about getting ready to tie the knot of sanctity. So the verdict (;-)) is:
Somewhere, someone is surely there for you! Keep your eyes and heart open and let someone sneak into it! ;-)