Art of developing trust

It takes time for trust to get developed. Every possible relationship needs it to flourish to its highest potential and culminate into ecstasy for everyone involved. But there exists a definite transient response which every person goes through, mostly affected by the long history of understandings, beliefs and set points of personality. So it’s in fact a very natural phenomenon in the field of psychology. Moreover, it helps the growth process too as misunderstandings are just bound to arise when people of different kind of history and assumptions interact, but how they get rid of them would truly be decided by their sensibility and awareness. So later if it turns out positive, it corroborates the fact that you have got the ability in you to define a common consciousness which can serve as a catalyst to reach and feel the beauty of relationships which they are blessed with. If it is otherwise, it lets you know that you can’t even find a common field of thoughts where you can grow together, you haven’t been able to develop the degree of acceptance and it could eventually be mutually unbeneficial association to have! So it’s better to part your ways and look for the possibilities you can align yourself with.

One of the most challenging aspects of this process is to deal with your personal traits. It happens at times that people stick to “nourishing” their traits rather than switching their focus on bigger purpose. The most important part of this entire process is to realize whether you helped the process or not. You must be constructive enough to give it what it needs. When you happen to help things building up with a certain sense of responsibility, know it is the right way to have. You have to have the ability and interest in learning each other, contributing to reach a consensus which would lead to a healthy situation for everyone to take heed of and learn!

Once you are up with this thought process, transients would settle down at some point of time and then you would realize your beauty of thoughts have led you to a situation where it’s all good, rather better than even your expectations.

Again these transients can be quite complicated at times. Things don’t happen in the way you want, but suddenly they take some other route, we tend to think in the first place that there is no reason why this is not happening, why that is happening. We feel disconnected from the source responsible for such happenings. But there is a definite plan behind it. If the relationship can go through these bad times, you learn that it has got the potential to weather any storm later. There is nothing wrong in doing mistakes, but just take responsibility for them and let yourself embark on a journey of getting better. Let the thought “this is all because of me, now it’s my responsibility to make things better and I can’t be tired till it’s done!” reverberate within your consciousness. Keep your egos aside and let your determination of making everything fine narrate the future story.

It’s just that we have to be aware of the mistakes done. Instead of sticking to old conditioning and belief, open yourself for the newer possibilities, challenge your set points which are forcing you to remain rigid with your malfunctioned understandings. As soon as those transients settle, you know what you have achieved. You have built a ground for the relationship to explore its spontaneity and reach a situation where it’s nothing but a divine source of pleasure.

Completed Two Years In Korea

22nd October, 2008 was the day when I first stepped in South Korea, so last Friday marked the completion of my two valuable years in Korea, valuable in the sense that it unveiled numerous traits, potentials, expressions, vulnerabilities that probably even I was not acquainted with. Anyway, that’s how this process of discernment unfolds, isn’t it! As time passes by and the way we get to define a learning process for ourselves and in turn learn to expose ourselves professionally, emotionally, spiritually, it sets us on a journey of awareness and if we set our mind to those cognitive processes, we are aware of the transformations we are going through.
Being away from your family and all the close ones and off from the environment that inherently interacts with the dynamics lying beneath surface static, is not as easy as it sounds. It took a real good time to identify with distinctive vibes this new environment used to generate. At times, it really questioned my state of emotional health. Even now, at times I do experience subtle emotional fragility within myself, or to say, a little aberration in my thought process and perhaps lose unison between heart and mind. But instead of adopting the path of passivity, I prefer to come to terms with it, realize it in its real form and feel the gratitude of having such beautiful people in my life that I tend to love them even beyond my control. So despite being in different sorts of negativities, I find myself closer to blissful state of mind. It helped me to go deeper, farther in the journey within. And as I try to scan through the whole picture, the words and phrases like Appreciation for life’s richness, absence of ego, humility, being receptive to all possibilities, allowing love etc resonate my mind and I feel the sense of gratitude for everything I have, everything I got at various junctures of my life. And I get reminded of the very pure and sacred truth that my parents have been the source of all the positivity’s that embrace me in this moment, with this state of mind because they are the ones who had sowed the seeds for the way I opted to learn!
The decision of coming to Korea happened to be a blessing in disguise since it produced a conducive environment for my overall growth as a human being and hopefully it would help me in taking important decisions later in life. So in a way, something happens in life that marks the beginning of a phase, which has a bundle of experiences stored in and touches upon the elements of growth. Life keeps bringing about new designs even as the old designs start to crumble and giving attention to these transformations along with nourishing them with the process of introspection sets us out on a journey that is there to teach the intricacies of our existence and help us to improve as a human being. Moreover, we need to extend this awareness, that assists constructiveness and in fact, we are living in the age where emergence of a global mind is necessary. We need to keep in mind that wherever we are, we are talking humanity, serving humanity. We all need to grow into a consciousness that helps us to feel universality and a profound context of commonality among all of us. We all wish to see peace, harmony, happiness around and thinking about the well being of Mother Nature is something we can take care of to start with. It is not very difficult to comprehend that if we all devote our energies to relationships and common well being rather than consumerism, we would all wind up much happier. Simple to say, our personal lives have to manifest those values that we wish to see on a global scale and in fact, that is the only way to bring out that never ending happiness and pleasure we all crave for and make our Mother Earth a better place to live.

Why this temperament???

Throughout this life journey, we meet numerous people. Some strange, some affectionate; some encouraging, some demoralizing; some accompanying, some disturbing!
Or sometimes we meet the same person quite frequently like in workplace under different situations, different circumstances, which unfold different traits of his/her character and that’s how we learn that person.
Every human on this planet lives in the quest of attaining happiness, and surprisingly true but the definition or even the ways to achieve it differ person to person. And even so different that their ways could be conflicting.

One’s happiness is coming at the cost of other’s ! what forces this delusion in those minds!

Instead of improving oneself, one tries to disprove other! What’s this approach to live!

One little thing forces an aberration in one’s behavior and response,… out of insecurity or because of intention to prove superiority!

One’s incessant effort to fight with others, instead of being introspective and having conversation with oneself! What’s this reluctance!

What’s the pleasure in being aggressively cynical, to think what you do is right and what others do is simply wrong and absurd!

Such thoughts prompt in mind, with vulnerability to see it around in some or the other form!