Mother's Day

Mother, the holy medium between the Almighty and human manifestation - a sacred truth, expressing immense greatness of being a woman, who experiences one of the most beautiful and proud moments of her life when she embraces the novelist form of life, the very first time; The moment when she needs not any testimony of HIS existence! The instant when she feels HIM more closely than anyone else, narrating the sole truth of human existence when nothing but unlimited Ocean of love and affection has its meaning! A moment when the nine month long conversation between mother and her child, still unfathomable for others, starts getting heard a loud and creates an ambience, witnessing the inception of a new life…something, that can never be portrayed in words – The birth of motherhood, a bliss bestowed to femininity.

It’s mother’s day. One always runs out of words to define the greatness of a mother. It’s just that special feeling, which a mother has for her child, and the child owes it for life!

Being so far and away from my Dear mother, I miss her every moment the way a son would do, the comfort of her lap when you return home frustrated from everyday struggles of life and the confidence she imparts when she says with glittering innocence in her words, “My son can do everything!” Every expression with serene tranquility on her face would tell you again and again that you can do it, everything would be fine!

Despite being miles away, her magic is still there, but devoid of her physical presence and as I am so far, surrounded by lots of uncertainties, number of precarious feelings, her presence in heart always makes things metamorphosed to resolutions from the most complicated situations. And of course, whenever I am able to overcome any problem, or come out of any uneasy state, Heart knows someone is there, constantly delivering prayers and blessings every moment for my well-being!

Importance of Inner Vigilence

Life is an incessant journey of learning ourselves. It teaches us everything we want, to lead a life with self-respect and dignity. We just need to be attentive to our mind and heart. And at different points of time in our life, Nature takes the responsibility to make us learn what we really should.

To be able to do something in its right context and form is complicated to its credit; A form that is discernible to your own perception, which engenders out of your personal prerogatives and is confirmed by an acceptance from within that you would never regret doing that at any point of time in future. One really gets confused at times by the intricacies of circumstances and end up not to do something outside the block. But when we dare to be honest with ourselves and come to terms with reality, that’s when we do enjoy the adventures of life, while exploring many horizons and paths of possibilities. However, it depends on several important aspects too, one of them could be a good correlation between your thoughts and the ability to turn and manifest them into reality.

In fact, Life is about spending lifetime learning about yourself. As time passes by, we all get to know what is good or bad, right or wrong, more important fact is what and how we practice them.

We all are destined to get our share of pleasures and sorrows. Complacency may kill! Remorse’s and resentments may hurt! So we should remember that aftermath of every event, sad or happy should be to learn from what had transpired. Learning never ceases. The day we stop learning, life has really lost its inherent meaning. All happenings of life in the form of mistakes and accomplishments, serve as sources of learning. But the problem exists when we refrain to learn and to inculcate the learning’s in our own lives and in turn tend to repeat those mistakes again and again, or indulge in complacency.

This essentiality of learning, introspection and of being aware can better be called the process of inner vigilance, which needs to be practiced in order to attain pure intelligence in the form of core consciousness.

Women's day

Though I believe every day is a celebration of love, affection and respect which has been brought into our life from any source – let it be our profession, our work or an individual, Mother, Father, brother, sister, friend etc., yet I really don’t think there is anything wrong in formally declaring a day to celebrate and formulate them as Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s day, Woman’s day and many more! Does it anyway limit our expression and emotional adherences for our loved ones for the rest of the year! In simple way, it just gives us an opportunity to mould our thoughts more onto one aspect and perhaps counterweigh the incapability, of us being human to accommodate all our thoughts on daily basis related to everything we like, everyone who brings happier moments in our lives and to find opportunity, time and attention to express them out of our inner self just because we do feel every day, but do we really express it every day! I mean everyday you don’t tell your parents how much you love them, but you feel it all the time and when it is their marriage anniversary or something like that, you wish to present them something special, lots of pleasant thoughts crowd in on your mind and you tend to express your feelings! As simple as that.

It’s very true that woman live up to all her roles with great dignity and commitment and surely everyday is a celebration of womanhood. For sure, there is a lot depends on them. That’s why in older times, everything used to go fine just because they were a very strong pillar to take care every single aspect related to home! And if after marriage, man is good enough, they had become ideal couple and if not, still there used to be successful marriages just because they used to sacrifice every damn thing for the welfare of the family!
With positive reforms and increasing uniformity in the society, we started thinking about equality between genders. Even the mentality and thought process of man towards woman has got changed a lot and it continues to improve! Actually it takes time to revolutionize 100 crores of population and it’s exacerbating when things do change at “tortoise” speed because of the pre-existing processes in our country. But we do notice a lot of change in the last 50 years after independence and there is hope for betterment.
But now the new problem, with equal opportunities and liberties given to both, though there has been a tremendous improvement in the society, but the relationships have become fragile. Surely the meaning of relationships has got redefined where man and woman can live the best of their life retaining their individuality as well. But it often doesn’t transpire the same way. They care more about their personal priorities rather than looking for the opportunities to learn from each other and provide constructiveness to the relationship. So they end up being in man versus woman discussions and spoiling their relationship in asperity. Of course, both man and woman are equally responsible for it. Even the women forget about the inherent greatness blessed to them by Nature and men refrain from realizing the same with dignity and respect. Thus, it’s no longer a question about woman’s emancipation, but a good coherence between man and woman.

Let me try to exemplify something pertinent to what I want to say…
One sometimes takes great deal in questioning the existence of God. Though we have so many things which Nature dwells around us to make us feel HIS presence, but above all, just look at a few hours old baby! One won't be able to question HIS existence! That’s why I think women are much more respectable and lucky for they feel HIS existence much more closely than men! Easy to think... someone, whom HE considered for creating this world, cannot be ordinary! That’s why mothers are so special!
So is there something new I asserted! No, I just rephrased the beautiful truth of humanity. But here I really find it an act of callowness to bring out the discussion of man versus woman. In other words, Does it anyway assert this fact that woman alone can give the best definition of upbringing to her child! Does it anyway imply that the father cannot love the child as much as the mother does! The child gets the best definition of life when both man and woman play their role as mother and father to bring up the child and feels the necessity of time and attention they both should give as parents no matter what they are as professionals!
So it’s more about the realization of this truth by a woman and empathetic perception by man to help her living her motherhood and also performing his own duties as a parent.


In case of marriage, Girl’s condition is always much more difficult than boy for the very obvious reasons. Perhaps the boy can never imagine what she goes through right since the day she gets the feeling that soon she’ll have to get married to the last moment when she feels now she is going to an entirely new world of people having different prerogatives and keep contemplating about their repercussions. It obviously symbolizes the greatness and sacrifice associated with femininity! This is the tradition in the society. But if a woman asks why it is not other way round, then perhaps I won’t be able to answer just because I hadn’t started it! On the contrary, I would surely look out for ways to constructively assert the life proceedings as they could be. So I would say in this situation, boy is the only one who can be most helpful, can make her feel that she has already got a very good friend in him and could tell her, “Let me promise you they all would be yours in some time for I have a great belief in my family which includes you too now”. And thereafter they both cultivate a very healthy and prosperous environment in the family and they go on winning all the pleasures of a married life!
But just think if boy doesn’t understand it and let the girl face the misery of coming into entirely new surroundings! If the girl doesn’t understand the same and start taking “revenge” for what she had to do just because of these traditional norms and serve her vindictiveness, would it bring any sort of constructiveness to the relationships! Rather they should together think about the happiness they could bring to themselves as well as to their four parents (parents and parents-in-law).
In other words, if we look for the completeness in life, there is never man OR woman and even not strictly man AND woman. Of course, it’s best when both can act together in all circumstances, but if it’s not possible, then one should be able to understand the reason of other’s absence in that situation and try to fill in!

Every sensible human no matter man or woman, accepts and respects all these facts related to woman. No question at all!
Women were always great and would remain so because they are the bliss of nature for number of reasons! Comparison between masculinity and femininity vitiates the purity of such thoughts and always get directed towards the discussion of man versus woman.
So obviously you can celebrate it not as one day, but as one more day for the glory of women!
A woman can think whether she is able to preserve everything inherently blessed to her by Nature and to live upto those. Get inspired from woman like Kiran Bedi who could always find a way to live her rights and values and incorporate the learning’s into their own lives.
A man can assess whether he is helping his wife to live her individuality, helping her in fulfilling her career perspectives too the same way he does for himself, Taking care of his mother in all ways as a son must do or guiding her daughter to fight out the odds of life and giving her the right perspective to live her life as a woman!


I would say every woman can celebrate it for being a daughter, a sister, a wife or a mother and every man can celebrate it for being the father of a daughter, the brother of a sister, the husband of a wife or the son of a mother!

Better to desire what you don’t have, than to have what you never desired!

In this age of busy lives, we hardly get time to be cordial to the dynamics beneath our surface static, to listen to our body and mind and somehow if we get it, we often find it complaining. However it always remains there in our subconscious mind that perhaps we want to do something, which is important as well as desirable and we want to divert our attention towards it, but eventually it leads to procrastination as a result of lack in mind-body communication. And life keeps going on juggling with the flotsams of everyday life. And in this process, we tend to do few unintended compromises.

I would like to comment on the way we make our choices and negative subsequent effects of them because of the absence of continuous introspection. It’s true we don’t have control over everything what happens, but we surely do exert a field of influence for having the power of choice. So it becomes important to be aware of these choices and make them consciously based on our understanding and belief. And when it comes to the choices we make in case of relationships, their consequences can really be vital. It actually happens quite often that people sometimes even admit to settling for someone who is not really what they wanted, but they think at least they are not alone or no longer left in solitary isolation. It probably works as an immediate fix, but unfortunately may not last long.

It actually gets defined by the set points of our personality. Our set points always drag us towards what we want, what we really have desire for! So be aware of yourself, reflect upon your choices, and give yourself enough time and space to think about what you really want, instead of grappling with the aftermath of doing things, which you never desired. But again is it possible that you can always get what you want? Obviously not, but at the same time it’s true that in spite of fear of the consequences associated with even a well thought-out choice, particularly of this kind where you can only be confident up to a certain extent, and are surrounded by anticipations of future, you would always find easier to live with this situation than the one which you feel compromised in!  We certainly find ourselves circumscribed by thoughts like “What would be HIS choice! What extent I could be part of it!” even as there is nothing wrong in believing yourself stumble one day upon the one who could fathom your soul! So let your higher self be the ultimate guide and make sure you remain conscious during the course of this journey of discernment and let it meander through the states it desires to, let God help you to decide and believe who the special one is and I really wish you all find your soul-mates some day, if you haven’t found yet! :)

She is no less of a feminist!

At times, we hear it coming, mostly from the types of self proclaimed feminists, “If men can do this and that, why can’t we?” but is this statement really fathomable enough? This is actually one of most unreasonable comment I have ever come across! Most women keep fighting for the idea of equality and unknowingly try to fit themselves in men’s standards, that is sadly exactly opposite to what they are trying to do-asserting the magnitude of being a woman! Aren’t they making mess out of the real value of womanhood as such?

I remember a movie called Astitva, which is a very sensible flick in terms of what Director wants to convey and also in terms of its ability to trigger the thought in viewers’ mind, the definition of feminism!

Simply put, it’s about having the right to act or think whatever is necessary to be progressive as a human being, like a man has! But unfortunately, our society is badly defected by otherwise notions, which always lead a woman to be against a man and even women often perceive it in wrong sense! Family life has been underrated upto such an extent that women tend to think of it as a slavery and they think they are being submissive if they opt to only take care of their family. As we can see in a character Meghna of that movie, she thinks an educated woman cannot be the one who wishes to be a house-wife! Actually the problem is with the notion existing in our so called modern developed society that managing home is the waste of a woman’s talent and she can be considered to be equal to men only when she can do the same thing as a man does. Actually I want to raise this question only, that if a woman chooses to be a housewife, how do we, as a society look upon it?

I think a woman opts to stay at home, just because of the fact that she wants to give her children or family a culturally and emotionally perfect environment, which is sometimes not possible when both man and woman are working and since men are so strongly socialized to be the “providers”, that to see this happening other way round would be quite unacceptable, even to women.

I hope I am not mistaken here. I just want to say that if a woman, by her very own choice wishes to be a house-wife, she deserves immense respect and admiration for this and we should try to change this wrong notion existing in our society that “managing” money is anyway less important than earning money.

Despite all these facts, I strongly advocate this fact that a woman needs not “sacrifice” herself for the sake of family and even when they both are working professionals’ things could be worked out very well, but It surely requires a wonderful understanding between man and woman and of course, it’s possible up to an extent, but surely not for lifetime! A time surely comes when you have to go through these narrow choices and act upon them. So I feel very first thing is that every man must understand this fact what a great responsibility a woman performs while being a house-wife so that it no longer remains like an inferiority. I mean woman must not work just to prove that they are not inferior to man. And then the understanding should get developed how they want to align their professional lives with other priorities. So precisely speaking, it’s not about who is better, who is not! Man and woman are two different creations and they both play very important roles in ensuring the progression of an upright society. So let it be the choice of a woman if she wants to be a housewife. She is the one, responsible for the perpetuation of species. Respect them, admire them and assist them to find equilibrium. Actually I met one Indian family here in Korea. She is a well educated intelligent lady and her confidence in saying, “I know how important I am for my kids”, corroborated this fact exceptionally well!

A Trekking Event

Lately I had been to a trekking event. It was a Saturday, 19^th December, 2009. I was planning to write about it from quite some time, but today only it could materialize. So here it goes: :)

We embarked on to this short trip at 0630 hrs, in the chilly morning, when Celsius scale was pushing itself below -15 degrees. We all were fully covered with number of layers of warm clothes with barely allowing eyes, the exposure of outside atmosphere.

We were six people, all office colleagues with two of them more than 40 years in age. Truly commendable spirit they were in! In fact, these two people had trekked this mountain numerous times before also, but they were equally excited to go for it once again.

Initial few minutes of trekking are seldom an aberration and it’s those few minutes after which you start realizing that you are in a different ambience altogether and totally engulfed by the elements of Mother Nature.

On our way, very soon we started witnessing the beautiful recital of Nature- the instant when atmospheric refraction causes the sun to be seen while it is still below the horizon! Yes, the optical illusion, the inception of a beautiful morning when we all were ready to welcome Sun god, originating from the backdrops of the mountains. The beauty exemplified- the beautiful Sunrise. And Sarah, a good friend and one of the companions in this trekking event, captured it nicely. Take a look:

           Just before Sunrise

Going with a single objective in mind; Telling anecdotes and passing amusing remarks, spending some time while sharing and empathizing with each other, it was very enjoyable. That’s probably the cheapest form of happiness one can ask for and indeed I was feeling it!

Koreans, in general are very kind and shy. They are not very talkative and verbose in the first few meetings. But as you spend a little time with them and try to give them that comfortable space to share and converse, it goes very smoothly thereafter.

The way to mountain top, even though it was just 6.5 kilometers in distance was adventurous, specially the last couple of kilometers, which demands that little extra perseverance and tenacity! The situation when you have no more strength to walk and you still try to push yourself to walk those extra steps, is embracing in its own way and enthralling when you enjoy those tiny achievements. Obviously, it has a lot to do with your physical stamina and sustainability, but more so with your state of mind as well.


0905 hrs:
So finally we were at the apex of the mountain! It’s named as Kwang-Gyo, literally means teaching of the light, in English. Few pics for your visual treat :)

                                          We, at the top of the mountain :)

Audrey and Sarah, Two biggest artiste, or entertainers, or whatever synonyms you wish to use! But the truth is they really rock while being together! Two beauties in their usual amusing act! :)

 Audrey with light sword: A glimpse of photography talent of Sarah :)        

In that scorching cold and windy weather, I felt as though my brain has started vibrating at some strange frequency! And I must say after coming here only, I have realized that there exists something so cold, that can even blow in the form of air! But despite all those not so usual facts, I was enjoying it and so much so as I requested others to stay there for few more minutes! We shared few eatables, fruits and in particular, the special home-made Honey Tea, that Sarah got! And soon we all started marching back.


1011 hrs:
We all came down within just little more than one hour. We went to a restaurant to have lunch and were quickly headed to our respective homes.
Sense of togetherness really works wonders and thankfully there were few nice people along so it was definitely a very pleasing experience. And really if you are fortunate enough to have such lovely hearts and minds to accompany you, the journey turns out quite entertaining no matter how many struggles you see through! Although this thought is pertaining to our short trekking journey, but can indeed be extrapolated to the journey of life as well.

Intrigued Fear of being what you are!

This time New Year day was very different! Perhaps This thoughtful state of mind turning everything different nowadays! And this time, all those thoughts were dwelling around the fact that Time is fleeting. It really waits for no one. It keeps you on your toes and lets you realize what you are, with every experience you go through, every moment you live! Imparting enough opportunities to learn, to grow as a professional, as a brother, as a son, as a friend, as an individual! New learning’s and you are getting ready for new experiences which Time is ready to give! 

There are many things you practice in this journey of life, but there is a fear deep within for being human even about the positive aspects, those which also get along with a Fear!

For your parents, you are precocious; but you understand that this precociousness comes with a lot of responsibility, so Fear if sometime you couldn’t empathize what your parents wanted or desired! 

For your sisters, you are the bundle of solutions for every existing problem in the world! But Fear if they get into a problem which you couldn’t have a solution of! 

In your work fraternity, you are professionally good; But Fear lest you get entrapped in complacency sometime because you want to make sure you are not thinking about something to be easy for you know yourself the best. You are just audacious enough, who’s trying to learn the extent of your own limits, thus to remain conscious, to remind yourself about your extents, about your capabilities, about your strengths and weaknesses and keep them in the right proportion to make things work! 

For your friends, you are cogent, you think good, you have an approach towards life; a life with number of very normal things, which they find unique and special; but seldom you live with a Fear of an intuition that you have to be at your best throughout, to retain your friends else you may lose them even if they are among the best ones! 

Indeed, there is auspiciousness about all such thoughts, but just restrained and self-possessed with uncertainty!

So you turn to Almighty to ask for strength, to keep performing in all aspects, to remain not only philosophical but pragmatic too, to practice everything what you have learnt from your own continuous introspections, reflections and repercussions of the people and to retain this temperament which helps to obviate such fears. And perhaps you realize you feel elderly enough to be ready for greater responsibilities, with the dawn of 2010!