Third Dimension

Happiness of being a couple lies in maintaining personal autonomy, but at the same time allowing both dispositions to sink in on its own, what it takes a lifelong relationship to work. Actually being successful in this quest of happiness largely depends on how you have been able to maintain two individualities fruitfully alive as two dimensions, which share a space on the path of exploration and nourishing the Third Dimension that comes into existence when two people come together for this beautiful relationship to share. They tend to create a common being of thoughts and feelings, filling gaps and holes in each other’s psyche. They cultivate it, live it, nourish it and share the joy out of it! In other words, a third dimension is developing out of interaction between two different combinations of soul, heart and mind. Each has its own shortcomings, traits and history of fears and understandings. But once they get ready to nourish it with love and affection with the perspective of constructiveness, they start getting into the grove of taking it to another level of consciousness, an intrinsic component of which is playfulness. Playfulness comes mostly from the interaction between layers of innocence, residing in a corner of heart that feels nothing but love and affection within the field of spontaneity. They enjoy each other’s company. They just simply love it! And this is what engenders out of this togetherness in the form of emotional intimacy and essentially is one of the characteristics of Third Dimension. Definitely, it has inherited the properties from both persons engaged in the relationship, but its sheer existence lies in this third dimension, third dimension because this form of playfulness was absent when they were not together.

It’s fruition of pure sense of togetherness, entirely governed by the spiritual connect they find between them. At some point of time in the process of nurturing their relationship, a beautiful realization comes that suddenly you are finding your expressions falling short in portraying what you actually have in your heart. You find it ineffable to replicate what your heart is feeling. That’s when this enchanting beauty of spiritual connect colors your expressions and just a glimpse of those emotions would narrate the entire story. In fact, there exists no other way of growing into this level of awareness since two unknown souls can only interact through the domain of spirituality. The idea of soul mates is not about having someone over whom you can place the burden for your happiness, but it finds its definition and achieves another level when they tend to create space where they can do mistakes and still remain lovable and adorable to each other with same intensity as before. Acceptance is the key and it begins with a promise, “No matter what happens, you are mine! We may not be best of the teachers for each other; we surely can become the better students!” and that’s how the scheme of evolution gets unveiled. When one falls out of step with the other, other has to carry the relationship with love, faith and trust until the one catches up again. Let the question “It never happens. There is something really wrong. He needs my help” arise in your consciousness instead of “I didn’t expect this from him. How could he do this to me?” [used masculine gender just for the purpose of ease, but it obviously applies to both genders! :)] but again the fact is that relationships are meant to be mutual, i.e., one has to accept the mistake, come to terms with it and learn and other gives space and helps in this process.  Giving yourself opportunity and others enough space to do mistakes and thereby learn is what makes relationships going forever. So obviously, this becomes so very significant for a relationship which is sanctified to transcend beyond the limits of lifetime. Though there may exist uniquely profound connection between two souls, to develop it into full bloom, it takes a lot of work and commitment from both. It starts with acceptance and nurtures into the world of unbound ecstasy where everything has culminated to be on a path of constructiveness with a beautiful touch of love.

P.S: Dedicated to two of my most amazing friends, an adorable couple Vijeta and Virender. They are two very intelligent and refined individuals with beautifully decorated spiritual lives and as I got to know them closely, I certainly sensed a beautiful manifestation of Third dimension between them! I mean one can distinctly see three dimensional growth of their togetherness in the form of Vijeta, Virender and their beautiful relationship! :) Next month, they celebrate their second wedding anniversary and I wish for them all the happiness, God’s kindness and blessings and they always remain the source of inspiration for each other and keep growing in all aspects of life.

Gaze at first expression!

From what you were to what you are now, Life has got changed a lot! Your thoughts, your opinions, your perception, your demeanor, but perhaps you remain the same in a corner of your heart where an innocent, naïve child resides! He still loves to be in that childlike ambience, loves those little pleasures, and enjoys those small things which may be of little significance, but titillating and delightful! He keeps the semblance of innocence alive, more like an obscure beauty, which loses its discernible expression in the inevitable process of gaining maturity. At the same time gets scared of number of things, one of those could be this lovely, but extremely strange thing called Love, love for someone with whom life starts sharing itself, while going through the inevitable journey of pleasures and sorrows! All of a sudden, you start feeling very different unique music and tunes altogether, a symphony of gracious emotions, probably as a prelude to something that you have never felt before! It’s complicated! First expression quite unfathomable!
In the process of growing up, we undergo various transformations in our body, heart and mind. We get the ability to become more aware of things around us; we are more exposed to subtle effects and mind gets conditioned depending on the way we opt to learn. Heart turns more heedful to emotional adherences and sooner or later, we find ourselves on the journey, in the quest of attaining happiness, which has a very important component called Emotional health. Actually a time comes when we feel the subtleness of these transformations more than how we ever felt before. There comes the necessity of having someone very close to you, the desire to have someone with whom you can talk about things, which you have started talking to yourself only. As it is said that for your well being, it’s important to have someone whom you can share your passions with!
You are in the process of discernment. It’s natural and you tend to perceive it more clearly if you are spending some time in introspection, allowing yourself to focus on cognitive processes this heart and mind going through! Above all, it’s so lovely and fascinating indeed! You set your mind to it and there you know what I am talking about, more if you have celebrated “Silver Jubilee” of your life, not long ago! ;-)

Better to desire what you don’t have, than to have what you never desired!

In this age of busy lives, we hardly get time to be cordial to the dynamics beneath our surface static, to listen to our body and mind and somehow if we get it, we often find it complaining. However it always remains there in our subconscious mind that perhaps we want to do something, which is important as well as desirable and we want to divert our attention towards it, but eventually it leads to procrastination as a result of lack in mind-body communication. And life keeps going on juggling with the flotsams of everyday life. And in this process, we tend to do few unintended compromises.

I would like to comment on the way we make our choices and negative subsequent effects of them because of the absence of continuous introspection. It’s true we don’t have control over everything what happens, but we surely do exert a field of influence for having the power of choice. So it becomes important to be aware of these choices and make them consciously based on our understanding and belief. And when it comes to the choices we make in case of relationships, their consequences can really be vital. It actually happens quite often that people sometimes even admit to settling for someone who is not really what they wanted, but they think at least they are not alone or no longer left in solitary isolation. It probably works as an immediate fix, but unfortunately may not last long.

It actually gets defined by the set points of our personality. Our set points always drag us towards what we want, what we really have desire for! So be aware of yourself, reflect upon your choices, and give yourself enough time and space to think about what you really want, instead of grappling with the aftermath of doing things, which you never desired. But again is it possible that you can always get what you want? Obviously not, but at the same time it’s true that in spite of fear of the consequences associated with even a well thought-out choice, particularly of this kind where you can only be confident up to a certain extent, and are surrounded by anticipations of future, you would always find easier to live with this situation than the one which you feel compromised in!  We certainly find ourselves circumscribed by thoughts like “What would be HIS choice! What extent I could be part of it!” even as there is nothing wrong in believing yourself stumble one day upon the one who could fathom your soul! So let your higher self be the ultimate guide and make sure you remain conscious during the course of this journey of discernment and let it meander through the states it desires to, let God help you to decide and believe who the special one is and I really wish you all find your soul-mates some day, if you haven’t found yet! :)