A trip back home-abode of two beautiful angels of my life!

I am just back from home, after spending ten beautiful days with two beautiful angels of my life; two amazing people who have been the source and origin of tunes, the lyrics, and the symphony of every beautiful piece of music that Nature played in my life. Parents are just like that. It’s ineffable to express what they do for their children. Those words never existed and could never be invented! You just feel the eternal bliss of having them in your life. Obviously, the feeling to be with them, to be able to see them around each day when you wake up, is second to none and this feeling is more subtle and palpable when your heart knows, in the last few years it has spent just a countable days with them. 

Since the day I joined college, I haven’t been able to spend much time with them and just visited them during semester breaks when I was in college and now mostly at some of these festival occasions. Of course, I really miss them whenever I am away and I feel there is a different being in me, which lives its life only when I am with these two amazing people; I truly feel as if it resumes from where I left when I was home last time! You just feel so safe and secure; you can be that extra careless; you can show that extra bit of negligence; you feel as if nothing can go wrong with you as long as you are with them. You are not being judged and no matter what you do, you’re going to remain the dearest for them as you always were. Life just blossoms into its most beautiful facets. Being with them, you always find yourself full of strength. Subtle expressions on their faces with serene tranquillity tell you a loud that everything is fine; you are sailing through an ocean of love, just enjoy it. There is so much love and beauty; there is so much of it.

Like any son would do, I love them a lot. I adore them for everything they did for me. But apart from loving them as my parents, I also admire them for being the kind of people they are. I can indefatigably go on writing about their established ways of life. I feel one of the most amazing things Parents do is bringing out the spiritual dimension in a child’s being. The very first seed of spirituality is always sowed by the parents who devote their entire energy in shaping up their children’s life. They influence a child’s psyche in varied ways and making a child realize the importance of being connected to the source is one of them. As you grow up, many a times, it happens that you do something good and get appreciated for it, and suddenly you tend to ask yourself where it has come from, who taught you these things! And there you probably realize that it all flows in genes, their blessings get reflected in your deeds, it’s fruition of their lifelong incessant efforts in letting you learn the values they always wished you imbibe in and then create a niche of your own, keeping those values as soul of living.

It’s so amazing to still see that incessant powerful urge in them to give you more even when they have spent their entire life doing the same. Sometimes I wonder and feel like asking them, ‘what is that which is left in you that you haven’t given me!’ and with more than twenty five years of benevolence over me, still they are always ready to give. So amazingly lovely it is. 

Now since you are going through that phase of life when you have a bunch of experiences with you and formed an approach towards life, Nature tries to teach you new aspects of human manifestation fused with responsibilities and all those pertinent intricacies of it and if you are consciously attending these teachings, you happen to have these very discernible unspoken reverberations and unsaid conversations within, ‘Though they have done so much and introduced innumerable happiness in my life for all these years that I can't just pay them back even a bit. But still I urge YOU to please make me potent enough to know everything what they desire, what they desired when I was unable to lend a supportive hand; which crossed their mind even for a while, but sacrificed it every time while bringing me up because I want to give them that every small happiness! I know they would never tell me; so I ask YOU, the Almighty for strength. God, you have been so kind to me, introducing two extremely beautiful people who were the origin and source of every wonderful thing happened to me, introducing two angels for me even before my existence! Hopefully I could do justice to my life by understanding and doing at least this much!!!’

Parents are the two finest musicians of their children’s life and not wrong to say, they truly specialize in background music! You might be doing great in the central plot and getting all the accolades, and back of your mind, in the background, among the constituents of every beautiful thing coming to you, you know it very well there are these two incredible people, no matter if they’re far away, who constantly deliver prayers and blessings for your well being and form the strings of the music of your life.

Third Dimension

Happiness of being a couple lies in maintaining personal autonomy, but at the same time allowing both dispositions to sink in on its own, what it takes a lifelong relationship to work. Actually being successful in this quest of happiness largely depends on how you have been able to maintain two individualities fruitfully alive as two dimensions, which share a space on the path of exploration and nourishing the Third Dimension that comes into existence when two people come together for this beautiful relationship to share. They tend to create a common being of thoughts and feelings, filling gaps and holes in each other’s psyche. They cultivate it, live it, nourish it and share the joy out of it! In other words, a third dimension is developing out of interaction between two different combinations of soul, heart and mind. Each has its own shortcomings, traits and history of fears and understandings. But once they get ready to nourish it with love and affection with the perspective of constructiveness, they start getting into the grove of taking it to another level of consciousness, an intrinsic component of which is playfulness. Playfulness comes mostly from the interaction between layers of innocence, residing in a corner of heart that feels nothing but love and affection within the field of spontaneity. They enjoy each other’s company. They just simply love it! And this is what engenders out of this togetherness in the form of emotional intimacy and essentially is one of the characteristics of Third Dimension. Definitely, it has inherited the properties from both persons engaged in the relationship, but its sheer existence lies in this third dimension, third dimension because this form of playfulness was absent when they were not together.

It’s fruition of pure sense of togetherness, entirely governed by the spiritual connect they find between them. At some point of time in the process of nurturing their relationship, a beautiful realization comes that suddenly you are finding your expressions falling short in portraying what you actually have in your heart. You find it ineffable to replicate what your heart is feeling. That’s when this enchanting beauty of spiritual connect colors your expressions and just a glimpse of those emotions would narrate the entire story. In fact, there exists no other way of growing into this level of awareness since two unknown souls can only interact through the domain of spirituality. The idea of soul mates is not about having someone over whom you can place the burden for your happiness, but it finds its definition and achieves another level when they tend to create space where they can do mistakes and still remain lovable and adorable to each other with same intensity as before. Acceptance is the key and it begins with a promise, “No matter what happens, you are mine! We may not be best of the teachers for each other; we surely can become the better students!” and that’s how the scheme of evolution gets unveiled. When one falls out of step with the other, other has to carry the relationship with love, faith and trust until the one catches up again. Let the question “It never happens. There is something really wrong. He needs my help” arise in your consciousness instead of “I didn’t expect this from him. How could he do this to me?” [used masculine gender just for the purpose of ease, but it obviously applies to both genders! :)] but again the fact is that relationships are meant to be mutual, i.e., one has to accept the mistake, come to terms with it and learn and other gives space and helps in this process.  Giving yourself opportunity and others enough space to do mistakes and thereby learn is what makes relationships going forever. So obviously, this becomes so very significant for a relationship which is sanctified to transcend beyond the limits of lifetime. Though there may exist uniquely profound connection between two souls, to develop it into full bloom, it takes a lot of work and commitment from both. It starts with acceptance and nurtures into the world of unbound ecstasy where everything has culminated to be on a path of constructiveness with a beautiful touch of love.

P.S: Dedicated to two of my most amazing friends, an adorable couple Vijeta and Virender. They are two very intelligent and refined individuals with beautifully decorated spiritual lives and as I got to know them closely, I certainly sensed a beautiful manifestation of Third dimension between them! I mean one can distinctly see three dimensional growth of their togetherness in the form of Vijeta, Virender and their beautiful relationship! :) Next month, they celebrate their second wedding anniversary and I wish for them all the happiness, God’s kindness and blessings and they always remain the source of inspiration for each other and keep growing in all aspects of life.

Women's day

Though I believe every day is a celebration of love, affection and respect which has been brought into our life from any source – let it be our profession, our work or an individual, Mother, Father, brother, sister, friend etc., yet I really don’t think there is anything wrong in formally declaring a day to celebrate and formulate them as Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s day, Woman’s day and many more! Does it anyway limit our expression and emotional adherences for our loved ones for the rest of the year! In simple way, it just gives us an opportunity to mould our thoughts more onto one aspect and perhaps counterweigh the incapability, of us being human to accommodate all our thoughts on daily basis related to everything we like, everyone who brings happier moments in our lives and to find opportunity, time and attention to express them out of our inner self just because we do feel every day, but do we really express it every day! I mean everyday you don’t tell your parents how much you love them, but you feel it all the time and when it is their marriage anniversary or something like that, you wish to present them something special, lots of pleasant thoughts crowd in on your mind and you tend to express your feelings! As simple as that.

It’s very true that woman live up to all her roles with great dignity and commitment and surely everyday is a celebration of womanhood. For sure, there is a lot depends on them. That’s why in older times, everything used to go fine just because they were a very strong pillar to take care every single aspect related to home! And if after marriage, man is good enough, they had become ideal couple and if not, still there used to be successful marriages just because they used to sacrifice every damn thing for the welfare of the family!
With positive reforms and increasing uniformity in the society, we started thinking about equality between genders. Even the mentality and thought process of man towards woman has got changed a lot and it continues to improve! Actually it takes time to revolutionize 100 crores of population and it’s exacerbating when things do change at “tortoise” speed because of the pre-existing processes in our country. But we do notice a lot of change in the last 50 years after independence and there is hope for betterment.
But now the new problem, with equal opportunities and liberties given to both, though there has been a tremendous improvement in the society, but the relationships have become fragile. Surely the meaning of relationships has got redefined where man and woman can live the best of their life retaining their individuality as well. But it often doesn’t transpire the same way. They care more about their personal priorities rather than looking for the opportunities to learn from each other and provide constructiveness to the relationship. So they end up being in man versus woman discussions and spoiling their relationship in asperity. Of course, both man and woman are equally responsible for it. Even the women forget about the inherent greatness blessed to them by Nature and men refrain from realizing the same with dignity and respect. Thus, it’s no longer a question about woman’s emancipation, but a good coherence between man and woman.

Let me try to exemplify something pertinent to what I want to say…
One sometimes takes great deal in questioning the existence of God. Though we have so many things which Nature dwells around us to make us feel HIS presence, but above all, just look at a few hours old baby! One won't be able to question HIS existence! That’s why I think women are much more respectable and lucky for they feel HIS existence much more closely than men! Easy to think... someone, whom HE considered for creating this world, cannot be ordinary! That’s why mothers are so special!
So is there something new I asserted! No, I just rephrased the beautiful truth of humanity. But here I really find it an act of callowness to bring out the discussion of man versus woman. In other words, Does it anyway assert this fact that woman alone can give the best definition of upbringing to her child! Does it anyway imply that the father cannot love the child as much as the mother does! The child gets the best definition of life when both man and woman play their role as mother and father to bring up the child and feels the necessity of time and attention they both should give as parents no matter what they are as professionals!
So it’s more about the realization of this truth by a woman and empathetic perception by man to help her living her motherhood and also performing his own duties as a parent.


In case of marriage, Girl’s condition is always much more difficult than boy for the very obvious reasons. Perhaps the boy can never imagine what she goes through right since the day she gets the feeling that soon she’ll have to get married to the last moment when she feels now she is going to an entirely new world of people having different prerogatives and keep contemplating about their repercussions. It obviously symbolizes the greatness and sacrifice associated with femininity! This is the tradition in the society. But if a woman asks why it is not other way round, then perhaps I won’t be able to answer just because I hadn’t started it! On the contrary, I would surely look out for ways to constructively assert the life proceedings as they could be. So I would say in this situation, boy is the only one who can be most helpful, can make her feel that she has already got a very good friend in him and could tell her, “Let me promise you they all would be yours in some time for I have a great belief in my family which includes you too now”. And thereafter they both cultivate a very healthy and prosperous environment in the family and they go on winning all the pleasures of a married life!
But just think if boy doesn’t understand it and let the girl face the misery of coming into entirely new surroundings! If the girl doesn’t understand the same and start taking “revenge” for what she had to do just because of these traditional norms and serve her vindictiveness, would it bring any sort of constructiveness to the relationships! Rather they should together think about the happiness they could bring to themselves as well as to their four parents (parents and parents-in-law).
In other words, if we look for the completeness in life, there is never man OR woman and even not strictly man AND woman. Of course, it’s best when both can act together in all circumstances, but if it’s not possible, then one should be able to understand the reason of other’s absence in that situation and try to fill in!

Every sensible human no matter man or woman, accepts and respects all these facts related to woman. No question at all!
Women were always great and would remain so because they are the bliss of nature for number of reasons! Comparison between masculinity and femininity vitiates the purity of such thoughts and always get directed towards the discussion of man versus woman.
So obviously you can celebrate it not as one day, but as one more day for the glory of women!
A woman can think whether she is able to preserve everything inherently blessed to her by Nature and to live upto those. Get inspired from woman like Kiran Bedi who could always find a way to live her rights and values and incorporate the learning’s into their own lives.
A man can assess whether he is helping his wife to live her individuality, helping her in fulfilling her career perspectives too the same way he does for himself, Taking care of his mother in all ways as a son must do or guiding her daughter to fight out the odds of life and giving her the right perspective to live her life as a woman!


I would say every woman can celebrate it for being a daughter, a sister, a wife or a mother and every man can celebrate it for being the father of a daughter, the brother of a sister, the husband of a wife or the son of a mother!

Better to desire what you don’t have, than to have what you never desired!

In this age of busy lives, we hardly get time to be cordial to the dynamics beneath our surface static, to listen to our body and mind and somehow if we get it, we often find it complaining. However it always remains there in our subconscious mind that perhaps we want to do something, which is important as well as desirable and we want to divert our attention towards it, but eventually it leads to procrastination as a result of lack in mind-body communication. And life keeps going on juggling with the flotsams of everyday life. And in this process, we tend to do few unintended compromises.

I would like to comment on the way we make our choices and negative subsequent effects of them because of the absence of continuous introspection. It’s true we don’t have control over everything what happens, but we surely do exert a field of influence for having the power of choice. So it becomes important to be aware of these choices and make them consciously based on our understanding and belief. And when it comes to the choices we make in case of relationships, their consequences can really be vital. It actually happens quite often that people sometimes even admit to settling for someone who is not really what they wanted, but they think at least they are not alone or no longer left in solitary isolation. It probably works as an immediate fix, but unfortunately may not last long.

It actually gets defined by the set points of our personality. Our set points always drag us towards what we want, what we really have desire for! So be aware of yourself, reflect upon your choices, and give yourself enough time and space to think about what you really want, instead of grappling with the aftermath of doing things, which you never desired. But again is it possible that you can always get what you want? Obviously not, but at the same time it’s true that in spite of fear of the consequences associated with even a well thought-out choice, particularly of this kind where you can only be confident up to a certain extent, and are surrounded by anticipations of future, you would always find easier to live with this situation than the one which you feel compromised in!  We certainly find ourselves circumscribed by thoughts like “What would be HIS choice! What extent I could be part of it!” even as there is nothing wrong in believing yourself stumble one day upon the one who could fathom your soul! So let your higher self be the ultimate guide and make sure you remain conscious during the course of this journey of discernment and let it meander through the states it desires to, let God help you to decide and believe who the special one is and I really wish you all find your soul-mates some day, if you haven’t found yet! :)

She is no less of a feminist!

At times, we hear it coming, mostly from the types of self proclaimed feminists, “If men can do this and that, why can’t we?” but is this statement really fathomable enough? This is actually one of most unreasonable comment I have ever come across! Most women keep fighting for the idea of equality and unknowingly try to fit themselves in men’s standards, that is sadly exactly opposite to what they are trying to do-asserting the magnitude of being a woman! Aren’t they making mess out of the real value of womanhood as such?

I remember a movie called Astitva, which is a very sensible flick in terms of what Director wants to convey and also in terms of its ability to trigger the thought in viewers’ mind, the definition of feminism!

Simply put, it’s about having the right to act or think whatever is necessary to be progressive as a human being, like a man has! But unfortunately, our society is badly defected by otherwise notions, which always lead a woman to be against a man and even women often perceive it in wrong sense! Family life has been underrated upto such an extent that women tend to think of it as a slavery and they think they are being submissive if they opt to only take care of their family. As we can see in a character Meghna of that movie, she thinks an educated woman cannot be the one who wishes to be a house-wife! Actually the problem is with the notion existing in our so called modern developed society that managing home is the waste of a woman’s talent and she can be considered to be equal to men only when she can do the same thing as a man does. Actually I want to raise this question only, that if a woman chooses to be a housewife, how do we, as a society look upon it?

I think a woman opts to stay at home, just because of the fact that she wants to give her children or family a culturally and emotionally perfect environment, which is sometimes not possible when both man and woman are working and since men are so strongly socialized to be the “providers”, that to see this happening other way round would be quite unacceptable, even to women.

I hope I am not mistaken here. I just want to say that if a woman, by her very own choice wishes to be a house-wife, she deserves immense respect and admiration for this and we should try to change this wrong notion existing in our society that “managing” money is anyway less important than earning money.

Despite all these facts, I strongly advocate this fact that a woman needs not “sacrifice” herself for the sake of family and even when they both are working professionals’ things could be worked out very well, but It surely requires a wonderful understanding between man and woman and of course, it’s possible up to an extent, but surely not for lifetime! A time surely comes when you have to go through these narrow choices and act upon them. So I feel very first thing is that every man must understand this fact what a great responsibility a woman performs while being a house-wife so that it no longer remains like an inferiority. I mean woman must not work just to prove that they are not inferior to man. And then the understanding should get developed how they want to align their professional lives with other priorities. So precisely speaking, it’s not about who is better, who is not! Man and woman are two different creations and they both play very important roles in ensuring the progression of an upright society. So let it be the choice of a woman if she wants to be a housewife. She is the one, responsible for the perpetuation of species. Respect them, admire them and assist them to find equilibrium. Actually I met one Indian family here in Korea. She is a well educated intelligent lady and her confidence in saying, “I know how important I am for my kids”, corroborated this fact exceptionally well!